Anybody out there ever feel like enough is enough?  I have a psycho sister who can't seem to get her head screwed on straight.  She is a year and 1/2 older than me with two kids and she acts like a cross between a five year old (screaming I WANT) and a 20 year old simply experimenting with life and rebelling.  The Heffer is 33 years old and can't hold a job, pay a bill or take care of her kids.  She lost custody of the kids to their Ass of a dad simply because she couldn't say no to a psycho boyfrind.  I am always bailing her out of situations and problems so my mom won't suffer & worry about whether she alive or does she have a roof over her head.  Our mom recieved social security during our childhoods from my sisters father and she seems to feel that I owe her for that.  Our mother raised me on her money so I should just giver her whatever she wants or needs.  Screw that!  I already support my mother.  I can't support her too.  Why can't I say no to her?  I know that all she is doing is taking drugs and hanging out with her druggie friends.  I don't want to enable her but how do I cut her off with out hurting my mom anymore than she already is and not making my niece and nephew suffer for her screw ups? Advice welcome!

A look at the Tao for some words of Wisdom always helps...

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The Tao of Heaven is eternal,
and the earth is long enduring.
Why are they long enduring?
They do not live for themselves;
thus they are present for all beings.

The Master puts herself last;
And finds herself in the place of authority.
She detaches herself from all things;
Therefore she is united with all things.
She gives no thought to self.
She is perfectly fulfilled.